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With another birthday under my belt, I can't pass up the opportunity to make a quick post about the things I've learned or that I am in the process of learning. In a soft attempt at sharing my 23 year-old wisdom, I've made a list for you all. These are harder than it s...


Definition: a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". 


       Two years ago, I became a mechanical engineering graduate from the University of...


Shame has a way of convincing us that our baggage is ours to carry and that our problems are ours to fix. 

The threshold for taking accountability for when you're in the wrong, in a situation you're embarrassed for, or just straight up ashamed to admit to is often an un...


I randomly thought about this phrase in the middle of my sleep last night. If there's one thing I will allow to temporarily interrupt my sleep, it's a blog post title. I considered being extra cheeky and titling this post “Talk is Cheat”, but I decided to cool it on th...


Understanding the difference between a person's intent vs. their impact. Pretty self explanatory but still really makes you think. As victims in some situations and victimizers in others, it gets hard to prioritize our impacts rather than our intent.


I'm probably becoming predictable with the premises of each one of my blog posts: I wanted to do something, and when that time came, I realized it was nothing like what I expected it to be. You'd think I learned by now, I had a month to marinate on my last post ab...


A majority of my "adulting" experience has been shaped by my expectations not being met in certain situations. When you’re not sure how something is going to turn out because you’ve never personally experienced it yourself, the way you set your expectations probably lo...


It’s a really tough question to answer, one that people seldom think about. 

I feel like we often confuse what we want to get out of our lives and experiences with why we were put on this earth to begin with. 

My close friends and I often joke about what we thought we wa...


I think I first heard the phrase “self-care” when I was in college. It seemed to pretty easy to define: taking care of oneself. Self-love and self-care seemed to be one and the same. The concept was depicted on shows like Parks and Recreation with Treat Yo Self day


Lately, I've been feeling like I'm not doing / being enough in so many aspects of my life that I've just given a title to my laziness as not being "Black Girl Magic". Of course this BGM looks different to everyone, but when I'm comparing myself to my own potential — I...

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